Peninsula Community Church
May 13, 2012
What Mothers Need?
As I speak to you today, I recognize that things have changed in the world’s understanding of family and most importantly motherhood. Just this week I heard a news report that stated how significantly things have changed since the 1950’s and 1960’s. During the 50’s and 60’s the model family was seen on shows like “Leave it to Beaver,” “Fathers Knows Best,” “Dick Van Dyke Show” and “The Donna Reed Show” but today we have such model families as “Family Guy,” “Keeping up with Kardasians” or “Modern Family.” There is a ideology that seeks to redefine the role of the mother which too often adds guilt and shame rather than freedom and life. This can be a difficult time for moms who struggle to meant the demands of the home, provide an income in this economy and be an example to their children that one would want emulated.
In Proverbs 31:28-30 we have this statement that challenges us today. It is a testimony to the mother’s greatest, character and ability. Her children praise her, and with great pride her husband says, “There are many good women, but you are the best!” Charm can be deceiving, and beauty fades away, but a woman who honors the LORD deserves to be praised.
As you listen to this there are some who do not feel or accept the words spoken by the writer of Proverbs because your reality is so different from the reality of the this word before us. It is for this reason that I want to share a couple of thoughts with you about moms. While these thoughts are directed to moms specifically, the fact is these thoughts can be applied to everyone who reads this or listens to this message.
First of all Mothers need to know through the hardships that God still loves them. Being a mother has its challenges and hardships. Whether you are a single mom as a result of divorce, death or an emotional/physical distant husband or you are a mom in a blended family or you a mom who has to deal with the consequences of your children’s decisions or you are a mom that has faced physical challenges in you or in your children, God wants you to know that you are stilled loved. His love for you is not contingent upon our success or failure but it is completely founded in who He is. Too often because you feel unloved by those in your family you can falsely attribute that feeling to God as well. For the mom today she must balance the budget, nurse the kids and the husband, cook the meals, clean the house, wash the clothes, do the shopping, taxi the kids, and attend every event the kids are involved with and then they have to have enough energy to meet their husbands needs. When one faces hardships or they find themselves exhausted in the task they can begin to doubt that they are loved and they can doubt that God loves them but I can promise you today that God loves you.
A second thought about motherhood is that mothers need to know their families appreciate them. Once again this is not something that is relegated to moms alone but everyone of use need to know that we are appreciated. Anne Romney the wife of Presidential candidate, Mitt Romney had this to say about mothers. “Cherish your mothers. The ones who wiped your tears, who were at every ball game or ballet recital. The ones who believed in you, even when nobody else did, even when maybe you didn’t believe in yourself. Women wear many hats in their lives. Daughter, sister, student, breadwinner. But no matter where we are or what we’re doing, one hat that moms never take off is the crown of motherhood. There is no crown more glorious.” Motherhood needs to be applauded and moms need to be appreciated for what they do and because they are just your mom. To appreciate them is to give them the credit they deserve, to say thank you and to honor them for the role they play. I know one mom of five would prepare a separate meal for every child (breakfast, lunch and dinner). The sad part is that we would watch the kids complain and argue with their mom about the meal that was prepared even though she had tripled the work. To appreciate them is to give them the credit they deserve, to say thank you and to honor them for the role they play. Appreciate your mom today. Let her know that you appreciate her. Take her to dinner. Write her a card. Do it today but do it every day of the week.
The third thought is that mothers need to let go of the “supermom”myth that pervades our culture. This concept that has been postulated states that moms are only fully satisfied when they are working a full time job, cook all the meals, wash the clothes, go to the games and so on and so forth. Do what you have been called to do. It is interesting to note that Anne Romney was criticized because she had not worked outside the home. In effect the communication was that if you do not hold a full time job you have no right to speak to the issues of women but, who better than a mother to speak to the issues of women.
The fourth thought is that mothers need to focus on the ultimate reward of motherhood. Motherhood has greater rewards than any other profession or job. As a mother, one has the privilege to guide and disciple these young people. They have the privilege to shape their destiny and their future through loving and caring for those who have been given to their care. To understand this we must understand that the child we have is not ours but God’s and his/her outcome is to be God’s design and not ours.
This is evidenced by the story told of a young child named Tom. Tom was unable to speak until he was four years old. Tom was a student in school but was having issues. When the teacher would discuss a subject in school, Tom’s nature was to ask ‘why.’ The teacher would often scold tom for his obsession to asking why. Once the teacher said that this is not a part of the teaching process and as you might guess Tom’s reply was ‘why.’ Needless to say Tom’s school life was not to continue and as he was asked to leave and so his mom took on the responsibility to educate him at home. By the age 14 Tom had read every book in the library, he had developed his own laboratory, he wrote and sold his own newspaper and he could expound on Isaac Newton’s theories and concepts. This occurred all because Tom was encouraged by his mom to ask the ‘why’ questions. As a result he went on to create the modern world in many ways. You see this Tom was none other than Thomas Edison. Later in life he made this statement about his mom: “She was the making of me! She was so sure and true to me! She was someone who was not disinterested in me but loved me and challenged me.”
With that in mind we must know realize that every child is different. They are special. Have you ever noticed how two children raised in the same household under the same rules can be so different? God has given us children raise on His behalf. The reason for this is that your child was formed for God’s purposes and God’s plan. So no matter how the situation of your child’s birth they are God’s child so therefore there are no illegitimate children, only illegitimate parents. Psalm 127:3 – “children are a blessing and a gift from the Lord.” God knows our children long before we do and much better than we do. We are not to make our kids to be what we them to be but to help them see what God wants them to be. Psalm 139:13 – We were formed in our mother’s womb and knitted us into what He chooses.